As your faith is strengthened you will find that there is no longer the need to have a sense of control, that things will flow as they will, and that you will flow with them, to your great delight and benefit. —Emmanuel Teney
Do we have control over everything we do or everything we are surrounded by. I wish I could say yes[My control freak side :)] but the reality is different. I think, this understanding is the very element of happiness. When we feel, we don't have control or there is some uncertainty, we freak out, fear of loss kicks in, Amygdala takes over the cognitive brain. pushes the panic button. This is where intelligence removes itself from Emotional Intelligence. What remain is just fear, rage, anxiety, impatience etc…
This is simple truth and may seem like easy to follow, but How do I get the balance in those very tensed moments? How do I bring this theory into this dynamic, fluid social life. Its one of the ongoing question in my life journey and exploration. So far I have few answers,
- Kaniyan Poongundran, Amazing thing with this poem is somebody realized this truth 2000+ years ago when nobody had a clue about amygdala, cognitive brain, brain image mapping technology.
- Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ. Wonderful book, explains human emotional behavior in layman words.
Dalai Lama’s quote, It takes lot of wisdom to to sum up things like this in few words
If you have fear of some pain or suffering, you should examine whether there is anything you can do about it. If you can, there is no need to worry about it; if you cannot do anything, then there is also no need to worry.
- There are times we don't get useful answers from our rational brain. Time like this, I just trust my intuition. This is one of the powerful biological compass when sky is dark and no stars are the to steer the ship.